If you are ready to start the divorce process with your spouse, we understand you have given this decision serious and critical thought. It takes confidence and certainty to know this is the best decision for your marriage as well. And regardless of how cooperative you and your spouse may intend to be through the legal steps, you may find yourself struggling with the many unprecedented choices that come with the divorce procedure. It can be overwhelmingly difficult to attempt to fairly divide your assets between each other, whether it’s a pet or a larger asset. That said, a divorce lawyer is necessary for many different reasons. If you are still unsure if divorce is the best decision for you, we’ve listed some compelling factors that help guide to you to your own decision.
Do You Still Have Romantic or Emotional Feelings for Your Partner?
One of the most common initial signs is that you cannot bring yourself to have romantic or emotional feelings toward your spouse. If you have worked hard to find a closeness with your partner but continuously struggle to find that balance, it may be a bigger sign that you are no longer good for each other. Even if you do still care about your spouse, it can be hard to draw romantic feelings for them. It’s important to be self-aware of what your current feelings are about your spouse.
You’ve Tried All of the Resources Together
There are a multitude of options for you and your partner to work on your marriage together. Whether it’s an extended trip together to focus on quality time or conversation or intentional marriage counseling over a period of time, there are many outlets you should explore before you decide it’s the proper time to get a divorce. However, if you know your marriage has reached a point where you’ve tried many different ways to form a new bond again and nothing has changed, it may be time to contact a divorce attorney.
Divorce is Always on Your Mind
As time goes on, you should be conscious of how much you are thinking about divorce as an option. You want to be certain about this decision, and one of the most glaring signs by the time you reach that decision is if you are always thinking about divorcing your spouse. Even after a meaningful or good day you may find the subject of divorce weighing on your mind. Be conscious of how your thinking has evolved and if the possibility of divorce continues growing in your mind.
You and Your Partner Can No Longer Communicate
Many relationships unfortunately come to a point where no matter how hard you both try, communication turns out to become an immense struggle. It’s important to understand that you each have put in your absolute best efforts of healthy communication before deciding divorce is the better option. Even if you have a lot of love and care toward your spouse, communication can become an unwavering difficulty in marriages.
Thank you to our friends at Felt Family Law & Mediation for their insight into divorce.